Why Choose Stay at Home Rather Being Working Mom?

I was starting to make myself comfortable in my job when all of a sudden my husband drops this news at home – “I am moving to the US and this time you are coming with me“. Being a newly married, I was super excited to be with him and to charter a new country. But then I had to quit work and I was not sure if I could work abroad. That has been ages but I still wonder what I did after that. I am one of those good for nothing people who wasted a seat in the MBA School, got their degree and did nothing at all with it. (Just pick up this topic in front of my dad and he is going to blast you). But then what? It was a complete no-no for me to be a stay at home wife at first. I had a decent job to start off with. Went abroad with my husband. He got a job there again and left it when he had to move back. And then decided it is time for me to become a mommy. [Read - Why I Chose to Be Stay-at-Home Mom After Baby Birth?]

You can say I took the easy way out. There are many of us who are managing work, home, a child and still have a lot of time to party. I decided to skip the job part and stay with my little one giving him all the time. Don’t miss the point that we shifted countries twice again with the little one. But then nobody gave me any credit for that. I never said that I have a full-time job to go back to and cannot be traveling whenever and wherever we had to go.

Why Do I Choose to Stay at Home?

Now came the second half of it. Son had to start with school. So what happens when my husband has to shift? We debate. I cannot take my son out of school every other day. (He has already been in 4 different schools in 3 different countries). Then again I need to stay back and look after his school and studies. And then there is home front, which is probably the easiest part of all stay at home moms or housewives? Right? How many times have you heard what do you do all day at home? Well, nothing much. Just watch TV and sleep. Only after I am done with grocery, running after the maids, working as a shift maid whenever they are gone, taking my son to school, making his tiffin, bringing him back from school, feeding him, cleaning the house every other day(I don’t know why is it always in a mess…phewww!), ironing clothes, playing with my child. And then, of course, helping him with his homework. [Read More - Why Choose Motherhood over Career?]

Let me tell you, I do not like watching TV. But I still find so many things to do. But then I wonder, when people ask what do you do at home, why don’t they ever ask, what do you do which you like doing? I would love to say so many things. But on a regular day I would say, when do I do that? So to all my Homemaker friends, let’s not get tired of these things. But let’s not expect people to actually ask us what do we like doing? We shall stay happy, enjoy our time with our child. Because soon, they will be busy with their own lives.

Moments Which I Don't Want to Miss 

So am I frustrated. No. I am not. I am perfectly happy in my own way. What’s wrong with not having a job? Do I not use my management skills in everyday life? My grandmom used to say, “Educate yourself. It will never go waste. You cannot take knowledge out of a person. It will stay with you forever.” So I am very happy and enjoying my time. I take time out once in a while to read a book or to stitch.

I wonder how many more years will it be when my son will sit on my lap and hug me and ask me “ Please tell me you love me more than my cousin. You are my mom and you have to love me more than anyone else. ” (I  annoy him at times saying that I love his cousin more than him because I take him as my younger son). One more thing, we click a lot of snaps of our child, but then I guess, we forget to shoot videos of our child playing a game or imagining being a superhero. Get those memories stored. You will love them. There are a number of things, which I have enjoyed which I may have missed had I been working.

1. My son watering the plants in the garden .....Happiness!
2. I could be in those special moments, like when my son started walking and talking
3. I can stay at home and be a part of his growing up and cherish some wonderful memories
4. Once in a while, I do get some me-time when I can just lie on the couch and do nothing (I am sure you all love to enjoy this moment)
5. He comes out of the school looking for me and then you can see the smile across his face – that’s unmatchable to anything else
6. I do not feel guilty that I cannot be with him when he is sick

And many more which you never want to miss!

Some may think that you are growing a child who is not independent. Am I? You can just throw him in the water and he will learn to swim. Well, how about - you can stay in the water with him and let him jump in and learn to swim. Why miss the moment?

So these are the few things, which keep me excited. I am sure you two have some great ways to enjoy being at home. Stay happy and smile. Your world is running around you. Please do share your favorite time being a stay at home mom in the comments below and let’s spread happiness.