Why doing-nothing is important for children

Today’s children have the wonderful opportunity of stepping out of their academic limitations and exploring other talents and skills they are naturally blessed with. The modern age allows them to enhance those qualities which push open many doors of success for the children apart from the regular choices. Now a huge platform is available to help them bring out their hidden abilities as singers, dancers, sports men and women and make a career out of their passion.

The only thing taken away from them is the carefree time.

Bound by the demands pressed upon them from an early age to keep up with the needs of their academic curriculum, and their chosen field of passion, their childhood gets compromised somewhere--those carefree afternoons, running in the courtyard with cousins just like that, an evening of aimless chatter, chasing butterflies—seems to have vanished somewhere now! Now, free time is taken over by either rushing between tuition and hobby classes, or PS 4 games, soccer on the virtual screen and an agenda to do this or not that.

But why is this doing-nothing important for children?

1. That aimless walk through the street or collecting those pebbles from the park gave us, as children, a mental break and a breather from the pressures of performance. Imagine the same for our little ones. They are not racing against a deadline here or trying to outdo competition. They are just being themselves. Perfect!
2. Being themselves, without an agenda or a deadline, helps settle the subconscious patterns of thinking and have a kind of a therapeutic effect on the child’s mind.
3. Maximum real-time learning happens for the child through his own observation…being in sync with the nature…seeing a pupa and then a butterfly sliding out of it…no teacher or classroom can teach these enriching life experiences in as many words.

How can I help my child stay calm and confident in the face of cut-throat competition?

Yes..my child may be a rockstar dancer or a dynamic upcoming sportsmen but the worry is that is he also learning any skills to still his mind and release stress? Will he know how to handle aggression or defeat in the face of calamity? Is he as emotionally sound as he is in other spheres of life? This is where parents need to let their children breathe!

1. Understand your child:  Know your child’s innate talent. If he says no to a table tennis class and instead wants to go for guitar, let him.
2. Give him space to breathe, every day: Just let the child be on his own, anytime during the day. This is the time when there is no nanny or parent hovering over him, no TV or Ipad or smart phone occupying him.  Let the child run amok and do what he wants. Clean up the mess later. The clearing up can wait, childhood won’t.
3. Initiate him into meditation: Besides sports, academics etc., initiate the child into meditation and value-building. This is where The Blessed Kids Club steps in. Our aim is to harness qualities of mindfulness, compassion, acceptance, gratitude and love for nature which seem to go missing keeping the unending track of time in our children.

Happy Parenting!

Shweta Chopra is a Life Coach and Spiritual Healer. She has been dealing with children and teen issues, parental anxieties, and pregnancy fears for a long time now and helps people connect with their inner selves. She has a popular page facebook/Communicative-Souls