Why to Have a Second Child & What May it Mean to have One Child?

“Vivaan makes so much noise and is so difficult to handle and getting him to eat food is one whole affair. We can just handle one kid at a time. I do not think we are ready for another one. It is getting too expensive to bring up children. I want to make my own career and grow in it. It is not easy…. “ A mother's perspective on having a second child. Here are some perspective to having a second child...

Why is it a Good Idea to have a Second Child?

There will be someone to play with. S/he may have someone to share his/her love and toys (not always though) and enjoy together. As time grows the elder sibling perhaps feels responsible for the well being of the younger one. At the same time the younger ones look up to the older sibling. Having a sibling comes with the added value of friendship. Also, it is seen that, over a period, the siblings do take care of each other, giving a sense of assurance to their parents of looking over each other. 

There would still be ups and downs as well. They may have their share of “No’s”, when they do not want to share. This is a part of growing up. Also, they may need their “Me” time to marshal their thoughts and think independently. Having a sibling doesn't discount the value of friends at school, neighbourhood or that of cousins. 

Having a second child also has associated challenges like, that to give appropriate time to both siblings.  It is here that an exclusive time for both the children, one at a time may be effective. “Nothing is worth missing your child’s growing up years”, said a mother. It is hard but not impossible to draw balance between work and pesrsonal life."

What may it mean to have One Child?

Having one child means that parents need to work towards an environment or a community of friends and family with more children so as to get a sense of kinship for the child. There may be a challenge for the parent to help their child to share with other children. It might appear that the parents are focused on their careers, but it doesn't mean that they are not focused on their child. Urban Parents want to do more for their child. Striking a balance is perhaps difficult but not impossible…especially if it is done without any external pressure.